I was recently horrified to discover that a friend of many years was now posting racist slogans and photos on Facebook. I thought I knew this person well, and although we only keep in contact at Christmas and the occasional hello on Facebook I couldn’t believe the change. This was a person that I had shared many a fantastic night out, with a wide circle of people from a multitude of backgrounds. What had happened? Why didn’t I know this person held such views? What sort of judge of character am I?
So it got me thinking, again, about how little we know about people.
Another friend once said to me you think you know people but you will have encountered many people in your life that will probably have very different lives than those you think they have. I may have believed that I will have met people but I felt sure I would never befriend a person who held extreme views.
Do we adjust our persona to fit in? Do I do that? Would I ever hide my beliefs to fit in? I honestly don’t believe I would. I have very strong beliefs and have argued with friends, family and colleagues about many things such as politics, race, religion etc. that I do not think that anyone would be under any illusion about where I stand.
I don’t stop being friends with people who don’t share my beliefs but I would not wittingly choose to continue any type of relationship with someone who has extreme views such as racism. So this puts me in a quandry, do I say something to this person, do I ‘un-friend’ them, do I ignore it and just continue to send the annual card wishing them well? My gut feel is that I cannot leave it without comment to this person and whilst it’s sad to lose a friend I don’t want the association of such views. So here goes……….
Am I a morning or evening person? I have often pondered this but I genuinely don’t know; I am neither full of life at the beginning or end of the day, or to be honest at any point of the day.
But what I love is the peace at the beginning of the day, those five minutes of me time, pootling round the kitchen, putting the kettle on, looking out of the window to try to guess what the day is going to be like, watching the birds, checking on what’s happening in the garden. That time is wonderful. I think of it as my five minutes peace.
Five minutes is a long time when you are thinking through the day to come, what’s in store, what needs to be done, has the tea brewed long enough. It is like time stands still. At no other point in the day can five minutes achieve so much yet be so relaxing, reflective and enlivening.
The time only ever happens in the morning, there isn’t another time of the day in my life that I can guarantee that those five minutes will happen. If they do it is a bonus but if it doesn’t well I know it will happen tomorrow.
Does that make me a morning person? No definitely not, it is just a small oasis in an otherwise unpredictable waking time.
So it’s off to face the day and enjoy that I have had my five minutes peace. The tea is brewed, there’s things to do, places to go and people to see.
So after a moment of madness, or clarity, I decided to take a break from twitter for a little while. It’s only been a week and it’s been interesting.
What have I missed? Well I definitely have missed chatting with some of my twitter friends (a few have my email and so I haven’t been totally out of touch). I have missed the impromptu, fun, interesting banter that twitter is so good at.
What have been the benefits? I am concentrating on the TV rather than having half an eye on comments about the programmes I am watching. I am not getting aching joints from sitting at my laptop for innumerable hours or having to wear my glasses so I can see the screen on my phone (the joys of getting older).
But for those tweeps I follow, I do occasionally take a peep just to see what you are all doing, lurking in the background, giving a silent nod to rants, comments, frustrations or smiling at the funny and lovely things that are happenng in peoples lives. So now you know that I am occasionally hovering in the ether whilst you are having your twitter fun, so give a little twitter wave once in a while.
And as for Mrs D……. well I still love tea, my family, wine, music and books and I will be back sometime soon.